Robert Montagu becomes Patron for Acts Fast.

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Robert Montagu becomes Patron for Acts Fast.

Acts Fast, a Bournemouth-based charity providing support for victims of child sexual abuse, and their (non-abusive) family, is proud to announce a new Patron. Robert Montagu is a highly respected psychotherapist, based near Weymouth.

Having been an importer of wines, pottery and ceramics for 25 years, Robert retrained as a psychotherapist (aged 50). He worked in Child and Adolescent mental health for the NHS before going private in 2007. He started the Family Counselling Trust to help families on low income in the south west, so that they could have access to high quality counselling for a range of emotional issues, at a cost they could afford. In 2014, Robert published a book ‘A Humour of Love’ drew on his experience of being sexually abused as a child. In that book, he revealed a sexual relationship that he had with his father, starting from the age of seven. It was that experience that has shaped much of his professional work, and his desire to be associated with Acts Fast. Since the publication of the book, Robert has combined working as a psychotherapist with families, extending the work of the Trust, and campaigning for the introduction of mandatory reporting of sex crimes against children nationwide.

Robert Montagu said “I hope that small charities such as Acts Fast that help promote such reporting in communities like Bournemouth continue to spread throughout the UK and will bring pressure on Government to act fast and reform the law”.

Mandy Gulliver, Acts Fast founder and CEO, said “We are extremely proud to announce and fortunate that Robert Montagu has agreed to be another Patron for Acts Fast, supporting the crucial work we do”

Dr Andrew Mayers, a psychologist at Bournemouth University and Chair of Trustees for Acts Fast, said “It is a great honour for Acts Fast to have a Patron with such standing as Robert Montagu. It is commendable that he has chosen to use the terrible experience he encountered as a child to make a difference for future generations“.

Generous Donation

“We are extremely grateful to have received a very generous donation, arising from Reachout’s closure. This will ensure, that we can continue our vital work in supporting families, who have been affected by chid sexual abuse”

Sexual Abuse & Mental Health Conference

Sexual Abuse and Mental Health Sept 2016

Sexual Abuse & Mental Health
Reducing the Impact of Abuse on Mental Health
Tuesday 20th September 2016, London

This CPD certified national conference focuses on the important issue of sexual abuse and mental health. Through national updates, survivor perspectives, expert sessions and case study presentations the conference will provide delegates with practical guidance for reducing the impact of abuse on mental health and supporting victims, families and carers.

For further information and to book your place visit http://www.healthcareconferencesuk.co.uk/sexual-abuse-mental-health

Follow the conference on Twitter @HCUK_Clare #sexualabuse
A 20% discount is available by quoting hcuk20af when booking.

Mental Health Week May 16th

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We had the pleasure of being part of Mental Health Week in conjunction with South West trains on Monday 16th May, at Bournemouth train station, which was a phenomenal success in raising awareness, with in excess of 8 million twitter impressions for #MHAW16Dorset.

Other organisations that attended included:

 

Other-charities

Great to see such a turnout from all different organisations. For more information click here to follow the link to the Bournemouth Echo article.

EVENT RAISED £450 FOR DORSET CHARITIES

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CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE AWARENESS EVENT RAISES £450 FOR DORSET CHARITIES – Young People – Dorset East

A highly successful event at St Aldhem’s Academy earlier in March, saw local singer-songwriter Stacey Leighann perform her new single ‘House of Cards’ as part of a series of talks and musical acts, raising awareness about child sexual abuse and mental health. Supported by Amelia McCloskey, manager of AM Studios in Longham, the event raised £450 for two Dorset charities, Acts Fast and Dorset Mind. Acts Fast are a Bournemouth-based charity supporting the non-abusive surviving family of child sexual abuse victims. Dorset Mind support clients with mental health difficulties across Dorset. – See more at: http://www.dorseteye.com/east/articles/child-sexual-abuse-awareness-event-raises-450-for-dorset-charities……..
 

Words from Chair of Trustees

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Dr Andrew Mayers
Psychologist at Bournemouth University and mental health campaigner and educator

“I am proud to be Chair of Trustees for such an important charity. In my work, a significant proportion of the adults that I meet with acute mental health problems have a history of being sexually abused as a child. We know that child abuse is strong predictor of mental illness in adulthood. I see my role as helping reduce the impact of abuse on later mental health problems, and guide the charity on governance. Acts Fast provide support to non-offending parents, carers and family (and the chid) where there has been sexual abuse. All too often following an investigation into child sexual abuse, when the Police, social services, and child psychology teams have withdrawn, there is no one left yet to support the family. Yet, this is the time they need most support, not least coming to terms with the impact of the abuse. Acts Fast fill that gap. I am feel privileged to lead the Act Fast trustees as we look to build on the great work done so far.

On behalf on Acts Fast, I would also like to thank Martyn Underhill, Dorset Police and Crime Commissioner, as he steps down as Patron. His support and sponsorship has helped the charity though the early stages of our work. His guidance and influence has enabled us to really start making a difference across Dorset.”

Mandy Gulliver, Service Director & Co-founder, “I would like to thank Martyn Underhill, for his support, guidance and influence.  It has been a privilege to have had Martyn as our Patron”

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Martyn Underhill
Dorset Police & Crimes Commissioner

“I am honoured to have been asked to be patron to this new and exciting charity. Child sexual abuse is a horrendous, hidden crime, which often involves the most awful of acts – the breach of parental trust. Child abuse doesn’t just damage the child involved horribly it implodes inside a family like a grenade, often destroying siblings and non-offending adults alike. In just minutes, a family can lose family stability, as well as the main wage earner, a parent, a partner. Acts Fast strives to provide support to the most needy of people – the non-offending parent or carer who is struggling to come to terms with the most heinous of crimes, as well as trying to support the child victim, and deal with the breakdown of a relationship and, often, huge financial instability.

Acts Fast is a step change in supporting non-offending parents, carers and family members involved in child abuse cases in Dorset. I welcome the team, I embrace the team and I wish them well on their journey.

Singers new single raises child sexual abuse.

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JOINT PRESS RELEASE

Dorset Mind, Acts Fast, and AM Studios
February 22nd 2016

For immediate release

NEW SINGLE FROM DORSET SINGER RAISES AWARENESS ABOUT IMPACT OF

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

For decades, even talking about child sexual abuse has been a taboo topic. It is now becoming more acceptable to speak openly, perhaps a reflection of the need to do so in light of high profile public cases. There have been a number of media stories recently, where people have shared their stories in the hope that other will do so too. Now, rising Dorset star and talented singer-songwriter Stacey Leighann has taken a novel approach to raising awareness. Her new single ‘House of Cards’ draws on her own experience of being sexually abused as a child. Stacey is managed by Dorset agent and producer Amelia McCloskey, who runs AM Studios in Bournemouth. The video can be viewed at

https://www.reverbnation.com/artist/video/14296085.

To mark the launch of the new single and video, Stacey and AM Studios are working with local charities Dorset Mind and Acts Fast to produce a highly innovative event of song and talk. Stacey said “The reason I am doing this event is to raise awareness about the daily burden of living with mental health problems, especially those struggling with the effects of being abused as a child. Survivors are not alone and shouldn’t be ashamed of who they are. We are called survivors so that we can thrive and be ourselves”.

The event takes place at St Aldhelm’s Academy, Poole, on March 12th, 11.00-15.00. The ticket price of £12 includes a three-course gourmet meal. All ticket proceeds will be donated equally to Dorset Mind and Acts Fast. In addition to Stacey singing her new single, there will be further music from local artistes Calvin Glenn, Lee Rassle Dove, and Tanya Miller. The impact of child sexual abuse will be reinforced through talks from people sharing their own experiences. Speakers include Paul Scates (senior peer specialist in mental health, child sexual abuse campaigner, and Acts Fast trustee), Sue Crocombe (Acts Fast volunteer and child sexual abuse campaigner) Gerry Jones, Clinical Lead at Dorset Rape Crisis Support Centre, and Stacey’s manager Amelia McCloskey.

The event will be presented by Dr Andrew Mayers, a psychologist at Bournemouth University who specialises in mental health. Dr Mayers also has close connections with both charities, being Patron for Dorset Mind (the local mental health charity) and Chair of Trustees for Acts Fast (the Bournemouth-based charity supporting the victims and non- abusive families of children who have been sexually abused). Dr Mayers said “The link between child sexual abuse and mental problems is clear. A significant proportion of adults with acute mental illness were sexually abused as a child. We also know that around 75% children who are sexually abused go on to experience a lifetime of mental health difficulties. We must all do all we can to eradicate child abuse. I am also determined to help reduce the inevitability of mental illness following abuse. I am honoured to be involved in this unique event, to raise awareness about the impact of child sexual abuse, and to raise funds for two charities that are taking great strides to tackle this problem”.

Anna Windett, a trustee at Dorset Mind said “Dorset Mind is proud to be supporting this event and the important issues Stacey is raising. We are passionate about supporting those with mental health issues across Dorset and campaigning on mental health issues.”

Mandy Gulliver, Director of Services at Acts Fast said “I would like to raise awareness of how much child sexual abuse impacts on the non-abusive parent/parents or carers of the child who discloses they have been abused. We need to say that it is OK for those carers to reach out for support, as they are affected too. We liken the disclosure as a bit like a bomb going off. The shrapnel hits everyone around, including other siblings, and extended family. In many cases also, it can be a trigger of their own experience of childhood sexual abuse, for which they may not have had support. This can have an impact on their own mental health.”

Tickets can be obtained via https://www.ticketsource.co.uk/event/120361. Please note that attendees must be over 16 years of age. Qualified counsellors will be in hand throughout the event to give support if needed.

ENDS

For an interview with Stacey, please contact her manager Amelia McCloskey on 07949 624690

For an interview relating to the work of Dorset Mind or Acts Fast, or about matters relating to mental health and child sexual abuse, contact Dr Andy Mayers on 07749 201980

Web and contact details:

Dorset Mind
Tel. 01202 551660, email enquiries@dorsetmind.uk, web http://www.dorsetmind.uk

Acts Fast
Tel: 07468 694068, email mandy@www.actsfast.org.uk, web http://www.actsfast.org.uk/

AM Studios
Tel: 07949 624690, email info@am-studios.co.uk, web http://www.am-studios.co.uk/

Dr Andrew Mayers
Tel: 07749 201980, email amyers@bournemouth.ac.uk, web www.andrewmayers.info

A survivor of child abuse, scarred but able to move on

Paul Scates, a trustee for child abuse victim charity Acts Fast with service director Mandy Gulliver

PAUL Scates describes himself as a survivor now but remembers vividly the first time he was abused by a trusted family friend.

At just eight years old, he recalls waking one night and being “frozen” while the man subjected him to the first of many acts of sexual abuse.

  • “Eventually, when the individual left my bedroom, it felt like an eternity before I could feel safe enough to walk out and go into my parent’s room. I didn’t speak out because I didn’t understand what had happened,” he explained.

Likeable, charismatic and well-respected, Paul said the man spent two to three years grooming not just him but his entire family. He then exploited his position of trust in order to physically and psychologically abuse a young boy.

It continued well into Paul’s teenage years, culminating in rape. After suffering for years in silence, his coping mechanisms could not prevent him from attempting suicide.

He described the ‘tsunami’ moment he told his parents and the journey to recovery which then followed.

“A lot of survivors and non-abusive parents carry an unfounded guilt and shame. I carried mine until I was 30. I’m now 36, and I’m still living it.

“But even my parents, wrongly, felt guilty because they felt they should have been able to notice it –but sometimes you don’t know what’s happening beneath your eyes.”

Now a mental health campaigner and trustee for the Ringwood-based charity Acts Fast, Paul said what helped him come to terms with his ordeal was talking – namely to other victims. But the recent national campaign #ItsNotOk highlighted the fact we are not talking about sexual abuse enough.

“In society, we tend to close our eyes and shut our ears and pretend or hope these kinds of things aren’t going on,” he said.

“There’s a clear lack of understanding that it’s not just the child that goes through it, it’s the parents and the other siblings. And a bit like any kind of natural disaster, the storm happens and you’ll have the aftermath, but there’s always the potential for the storm to return, psychologically.

“There’s no support once the court case is over. From a criminal justice point of view, there is closure, but for the individual and their family, there isn’t closure.”

This is where organisations like Acts Fast step in and offer support. Mandy Gulliver, the charity’s service director, said giving victims and their families that support and understanding sooner reduces the impact on their mental health.

“These things do affect the whole family. That’s why it’s really important for the non-abusive parent to talk to us and understand it isn’t their fault and, sadly, they were part of the grooming process themselves.

“Knowing you’re not alone and having people understand what you’re going through helps enormously and brings healing in itself. It also helps people to manage their mental health to help them support their child better,” she added.

Paul said he was eventually able to move forward and become a “purposeful member of society”. He now has the courage to talk openly about his experiences and be a spokesperson for change in the way sexual abuse victims are treated by the legal system and society in general.

“The gravity gets lost of how much this really affects people, and I worry people don’t take it as seriously as it is. I feel as a nation we have to stand united together and strong to enable change.”

He added: “When I look back at my journey, I had massive body dysmorphic disorder, and I eventually became my own abuser through drugs and alcohol.

“With organisations like Acts Fast, it’s about giving people a safe platform to explore and take away the psychological distress. You’ll always be scarred, but the hope is you can move forward.

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“That’s what drives the passion behind what I do because I’ve lived it and I’m breathing it and we want to help other people through that journey.”

Tweet Paul @paulscates or visit www.actsfast.org.uk

Copy Jade Grassby / Sunday 21 February / Bournemouth Daily Echo